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Indian
columns are a delight to read, when they're not downright
disgusting.
Indian matrimonials columns are something. When it comes
to attitude and language, there's no beating them. They
also reveal a lot about society. 'Wheatish', 'homely',
'convent-educated', 'innocent divorcee' - are terms
you find in Indian
classifieds and carry their own esoteric meanings.
So begin with, are 'brides wanted' and 'grooms wanted'
really derogatory terms treating love as commodity in
the 'marriage market' governed by the economic principles
of demand and supply? Sociologist, Swapan Mukherjee,
disagrees, "Brides Wanted and Grooms Wanted are not
derogatory terms. They signify the need of the advertiser
and classify the requirement in specific columns." Psychologist
Chrisann Almeida feels, "Marriage is deemed essential
for virtually everyone in India, so the term "wanted"
actually reflects an almost dire need, so I don't think
it's derogatory as such. I'm disheartened about the
lack of romance, but this is the reality of things in
India."
Going down the ages...
Kerala
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Since when have people started advertising in the newspaper
for brides and grooms? People says, "During our grandparents'
generation marriages were organised through relatives.
Festivities and weddings were attended by many distant
family members and matchmaking was done. Some time later
the match brokers' came into the picture. They were
usually the priests who moved from place to place and
visited many households. They prepared the horoscopes
and guardians requested them to find suitable matches.
With nuclear families and individuals preferring to
interact with the would-be spouses, nowadays, newspaper
ads and even ads on the Internet have become popular."
Actually
advertisements haven't shown much change over the years.
Ever since the 50s almost everyone wanted to marry a
fair girl and the groom had to be financially established
and from a so-called respectable family. Though most
families were quite particular as far as caste and even
gotra was considered, even in 1947, there were advertisements
in which 'caste, community and religion' were no bar.
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were
quite unheard of in 1947 but there were grooms from
liberal families quite open to the idea of marrying
a widow. However, over the years more importance has
been paid to a girl's professional and academic background.
When India just got independent it would generally suffice
if the girl was just a matriculate and even 16-year-olds
were considered old enough for marriage. Dowry hadn't
been made a crime so it was asked for openly in print.
Browsing through
classifieds which appeared in the Amrita Bazar Patrika
in 1947, one comes across lines like, 'preference to
party willing to bear groom's foreign studies expenses'
or 'reasonable / liberal dowry'. There were a few cases
in which no dowry was asked for or the bride's father
boldly refused to pay dowry. A nationalistic father
had advertised in the year of the Indian Independence
for his daughter's marriage stating- 'unable to pay
adequate dowry according to modern foppish standards.'
Where economics comes in
A glance at contemporary
classifieds reveals words like 'beautiful', 'professionally-qualified',
'respectable family', 'caring' etc... this may lead
one to wonder - are all those who are advertising themselves
as good-looking, virtuous and from well-to-do families
as claimed in print? If it was really so why don't we
see as many gorgeous looking people with great jobs
all around us in everyday life? Why doesn't humility
ever feature in
classifieds?
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Ajay Chandel is a relationship
expert specializing in Marriage, Family and Relationships.He
has written authoritative articles on relationships
and marriage and is currently assisting India
Matrimonial and India
Matrimonials as a Family and Relationship specialist.
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